Everyone becomes jealous of others many times during their lives. It is only when jealousy becomes extreme that it is considered a problem.
No one who has experienced extreme jealousy needs to be told what it can do to a relationship. Whether you are the jealous partner, or are on the receiving end, jealousy can devastate a relationship.
The Power of Your Imagination
All jealousy is caused by an over-active and misused imagination. Creating scenarios in your mind of what your partner is thinking or doing is the perfect way to keep the jealous thoughts from your mind.
If you are the irrationally jealous type, you must gain control over the workings of your imagination so that it stops feeding you images that fuel your suspicions. Your partner will be astounded (and probably overjoyed!) at the new relaxed, realistic you.
Don't let it Ruin Your Life
Jealousy has many possible causes and being jealous does not make you less of a person. Everyone becomes jealous of others many times during their
The most common type of this problem is when one partner in a relationshyp beaomes insanely jealous of the other, often leading to abuse.
Tips for dealing with jealousy can include some of the following:
• Discuss the problem thoroughly with your partner.
• Reassure him or her that there is nothing to worry about.
• Be assertive, but not aggressive
• Do not panic.
• Watch what you say so as to avoid unnecessary conflict.
• Be fair.
• Be flexible and learn to compromise.
Understanding is a main part of dealing with a jealous partner. Try to understand his/ her feelings and do not try to make the partner feel guilty. Try to support your partner as best you can. Making temporary accommodations can often solve the problem completely and eradicate the jealousy.
However, if following these tips does not resolve the problem and the situation turns volatile, professional help may be needed.
Hypnotherapy is really effective in resolving issues of jealousy. Through relaxation and teaching techniques, a jealous rage that is about to come on may be quelled. Understanding that being jealous, all the time, is not normal is an integral part of the healing process. This understanding goes a long way to resolving relationship problems that are caused by irrational jealousy.
What Can You Do to Help Jealousy?
If you've ever suffered from an attack of the green- eyed monster, you've probably wished for some way to help jealousy. The best way to prevent jealousy is by cultivating a good relationship with your partner. But if it's too late for that and some damage has already been done, there are some things you can do to help ease your jealous pangs.
Many people find that when you feel jealous and your partner isn't doing anything obvious to cause it, you just have to tough it out. You have
to control your emotions, which can sometimes be very hard. Tell yourself you have no reason to be jealous and just let it go.
Most experts suggest that being open about your feelings is the best way to help jealousy. Use “I” words when talking to your partner. Say, “I feel” instead of “you make me feel”. This helps your partner to not feel threatened and attacked, and help make him or her more likely to be understanding of your feelings.
Working on your self-esteem is another way to help eliminate the tendency to be jealousy. Spend time doing things that make you feel good, such as bonding with friends, working on hobbies, and volunteer work. Focusing on things outside of yourself will give you less time to worry about other things.
Don't spend time torturing yourself with jealous fantasies. It serves no good purpose for you to spend time daydreaming about your partner with someone else. You might also consider talking to sympathetic friends or a therapist about your feelings.